Are you as good to yourself as you are to others? Sometimes we are our own worst critics. When it comes to running your spa or massage practice, you may be too hard on yourself. Not every goal is as easy to achieve as it seems. Even in your personal life, you may find yourself taking on too much blame when relationships get rocky.
The fact is that for most, it’s a tremendous challenge to manage work and family responsibilities, maintain relationships with friends and keep up with volunteer commitments and continued education classes for massage therapy to maintain your professional credentials. Feeling that you should be able to handle everything flawlessly just adds to the pressure you already are feeling with too much on your plate.
Being good to yourself helps get you through difficult times. It also helps you to be even better to others and accept their failings. Here are some ways to stop feeling the need to be perfect:
Turn off the negative voice in your head: Start talking to you as your best friend would. Don’t crowd your mind with negative thoughts even if you have made a mistake or could have handled a situation in a better way. Negative thoughts come from a lack of self-confidence. Boost your confidence by retraining your mind to see things in a more positive light. You didn’t make a mistake; you learned a valuable lesson, for example.
Surround yourself with positive people: Being around people who are upbeat, who like themselves and respect others around them is uplifting and also instructional. Learn from them. Find out what they do to keep a positive, loving attitude about themselves and others.
Pat yourself on the back: When you achieve something that is meaningful to you, take time to praise yourself. You deserve a compliment for a job well done and no one may understand as well as you do what you accomplished. Be proud of yourself and acknowledge it.
Forgive yourself: No matter how badly you feel about something you did or failed to do in the past or the present, be easy on yourself. Resolve to do things differently next time.
Review your positive qualities: Do self-inventory. Make a list of all the things you like about you. Focus on your strengths and good qualities.
Believe in yourself: When you know you are right, don’t let others try to change your mind.
Be easier on others: The way you think about often reflects the way you think about yourself. Aim to be kinder towards others and less judgmental. Overtime, it will make you easier on yourself and more understanding.
Take a time out from your everyday: You probably are familiar with the saying “stop and smell the roses.” Do just that or do something equally simple yet pleasurable. Have a cup of coffee in an outdoor café and watch the world go by. Put all your responsibilities behind you and focus on some of life’s simple pleasures to find joy in the moment that invigorates and refreshes you and gives you peace.
Life is full of challenges. Be ready for them by being good to yourself.